Dating on a spiritual path? In-tune, grounded, beautiful, centered, self-aware, strong, powerful goddess who knows what she wants: does this sound like you? Yep, you’ve got it all going on babe. So why is that age-old quandary of the man-woman relationship still a mystery? If finding one’s self is a lifelong process, it makes sense that finding a soulmate - someone to mirror us, walk through this life with, journey with on the path of awakening - is no simple quest. Though geared for spiritual goddesses this article is non-gender based and applies for males as well.
Spiritual seekers alike date and due to the alternative
lifestyles many of us souls live, it is always useful to review dating Do’s and
Don’ts.
Lessson #1) Attraction:
we are energy.
DON’T date someone
you are not attracted to. Your heart,
soul, spirit, intuition know what is best.
DO date a person your
being is completely melted and content spending time with and getting to know
for the time you are with them – even if it’s only through dinner.
Us spiritually in-tune gals know we need connection on many
levels to a person, beyond physical: intellectual, energetic, soul, background,
past life, etc. If fully self-connected,
you know when you are attracted to someone, and often these reasons cannot and
do not require verbal explanation.
If for SOME reason beyond you: you’ve held out dating to
meet the “right one”, you’re bored, you are doing the online dating thing
(completely admirable), you think you are hanging out with friends and find
yourself left alone with someone……WHATEVER leads to a date with a person you
are not attracted to, it is unlikely to have the desired effect for both
parties. Even us “all LOVE”, “bliss for
the world”, “we are one”, there is a reason for every encounter-girls are not
attracted to everyone and will end up with only one partner. We cannot date everyone, so we must
filter. And that is OK, there is nothing
inherently wrong with this, even if a hip, sweet-talking SNAG tells you
otherwise.
Have you noticed that new-age guys (and girls) have gotten really good
at using Spiritual Speak? I have experienced it used with unauthentic motivations during dating situations with us unsuspecting, loving, hopeful, open-hearted
souls.
“I am only a mirror reflecting your soul”.
“Don’t we all want to be in relationships where each partner
is empowering the other on their path?”.
“Our meeting time and again is complete synchronicity”. You
live in a community of a few hundred people and a small set of 3 beaches: you
see everyone, all the time.
Heard anything like this before? Awesome if it comes from a genuine person to
whom we are attracted. Not so much if
they turn out to be lacking center, confidence, connection and ability for
self-reflection.
Lesson #2) Listen
to your intuition, it is always right.
DON’T date a person
if your intuition “says” I’ve met this
person before in other people, and it usually goes wrong, or I am so not into this person and we’ve only
just met, or any gut feeling that is OFF.
DO date someone if
your intuition “says” Wow, this is a new,
expansive, heart-opening, soul-connected feeling. I want to explore this further.
Lesson #3) Beginning with play, exploration, soul
meeting is the way.
DON’T pursue anyone
whose motivations are primarily ego-driven and wishes to engage in ego-driven interactions.
DO explore with a
person who, while aware and perhaps with ego (as we all are), is connecting
with you from their essence or soul.
Divine soul connections allow for love to unfold. This is the space where true connection may
be explored and expand. When meeting
another soul it is only possible to form lasting bond if it is on the basis of
play, fun, exploration, expansion, inspiration, creation, growth. Yes, ego will arise, old wounds will arise,
but by then there is foundation on
Lesson #4) Timing is everything when it comes to sharing
ourselves and our “stories”.
DO NOT date someone
who shares all of the wounded childhood issues they have yet to heal on a first
date.
DO date someone who
asks questions showing great interest in you, and you in them, and shows
appropriate boundaries to reveal important pieces of themselves when the time
is right.
All spiritually-inclined people are made of stories that
helped shape their path. When dating, it
is important to keep the aspect of divine soul connection and play intact while
learning about a person. In doing so,
the process of hearing a person’s stories will naturally unravel over
time. Everyone is at a different place
in their process of healing which sometimes determines how attached they are to
their story and how much they identify with it.
Sometimes a connection is so strong the story takes a backseat and is
heard many months down the line.
Lesson #5) Numbers
don’t matter.
DO date someone who
aligns with you on all levels, regardless of age.
DON’T shy away from
dating someone because there is a huge age difference of 10 or 20 years,
regardless of gender.
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| Post-Wedding Pic: Soulmates for life 10-yr age gap a non-issue |
Lesson #6) Be
yourself and the person you are meant to be with will find you. They are looking too.
DON’T be someone you
are not, alter your path, live someone you do not want to live, in hopes of
meeting someone. This will not serve you
or your future partner.
DO YOU.
I found these essential tips for spiritual dating relevant
not only to dating but reflective of my life rules. Sounds about right: love yourself and you
will be loved.
6 Essentials for Spiritual Dating, by Amy Leigh
- ` Deep respect for yourself and others
- ` Authentic Behavior
- ` Desire to grow
- ` Empower sense of self-love
- ` Commitment to your own enjoyment and pleasure
- ` Dancing, playing, expansive fun
Lesson #7) Shine bright, open your heart, release fear.
DON'T let any spiritual nonsense keep you from dating. A person does not have to be quote-on-quote spiritual to be worthy of dating.
DO maintain your path, cleanse your energy, open chakras when appropriate, and shine!
Your brightness will attract special souls into your life. Grounded, centered, in-tune, you will know which people are best to share your time, energy and stories with, to "date". Many truly spiritual people do not label themselves as such. Healer, yogi, hipster, cyclist, artist, baba, guru, shaman; it is not what someone is, does, or claims to be, rather a person's essence is under consideration. Any savvy spiritual goddess knows their soul mate(s) may come in any form, so it is important to maintain your steadiness, your path, your energy, your shine, your practices for when this person does cross your path. If you are in-tune and aware, you will have the ability to recognize someone worthy of your time and love.
Your brightness will attract special souls into your life. Grounded, centered, in-tune, you will know which people are best to share your time, energy and stories with, to "date". Many truly spiritual people do not label themselves as such. Healer, yogi, hipster, cyclist, artist, baba, guru, shaman; it is not what someone is, does, or claims to be, rather a person's essence is under consideration. Any savvy spiritual goddess knows their soul mate(s) may come in any form, so it is important to maintain your steadiness, your path, your energy, your shine, your practices for when this person does cross your path. If you are in-tune and aware, you will have the ability to recognize someone worthy of your time and love.
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